Is It Time To Move On?
I know I've been on this topic for a few days now,
but I really want you to get this. If you haven't listened to Wednesday's podcast and you're not sure what I'm talking about, check that out real quick. It's literally a 5 minute listen this week, super quick, but I want you to have time to really reflect because the message is important and opens the door for a lot of self growth.
Is it time to move on?
In this week's episode we listened as Julia made the realization that for the sake of her mental health, even though she had her dream job, she needed to move on. It didn't necessarily make sense except for that fact that it's what she needed mentally.
How often do we find ourselves in that very place?
Desperately needing something different but terrified to move in a different direction because we're either somewhat comfortable or utterly terrified to step out into uncharted territory?
It could be a horrible job, a lukewarm relationship, an overwhelming project that you just don't have the spark for anymore; it could be anything.
Quitting isn't cute, but walking away because something is over or it's worse for you to stay mental and physically- that's not quitting. That's knowing when it's time to move on.
So how do you know when you're simply quitting something vs knowing it's the best option for your mental & physical health now & long term?
Quitting often looks and feels like:
Getting overwhelmed before you even give it a chance & walking away.
Feeling lazy so you just don't put the work in but get disappointed when it doesn't go well so you walk away without a second glance.
Choosing not to fix something that could be easily fixed if you just took a minute to concentrate.
Walking away for the greater good is:
You feel overwhelmed by every step and although you keep stepping, it's just not working.
Everything you do feels forced & unnatural.
You have immense anxiety around what you're doing.
Your heart is being pulled in another direction but you're only staying because you feel obligated.
Oftentimes we hear about God shutting doors to things we're not supposed to do. But ya know, God also does that when it comes to things we're already in and it's time to leave. If you feel like God is sending you prompts or shutting doors and you keep trying to pry them open because "that's what you're supposed to do" you should probably stop and rethink and pray about if you're supposed to keep going or if you're supposed to turn the other way and call it a day.
I know that as a perfectionist myself, not hitting a goal feels like the absolute end of the world. But I promise it's not.
Sometimes the things that we hold on the most to are the things we're actually supposed to let go of for the greater picture.
What are you holding onto right now?
Is God prompting you to let go?
Is your mental or physical health struggling because of it?
I know it's hard but I promise you that there is something brighter on the other side, you just have to give yourself permission to let go. Lean into God for the strength to walk away because the emotional turmoil can be heavy, even when it's the right thing to do.
When a door closes it just means that there is something more for us that we can't quite see yet. Trust the process and realize that if you just say yes to the brave decision of choosing the unknown, you may just find yourself with a huge load off of your shoulders and a giant sight of relief.
I hope this encourages you. I think we're all always holding onto one thing or another. I know it feels impossible to give things up, to meet all of your goals, check all the boxes & "prove" your worth. But I promise you that the freedom that comes when you let go of the things that are no longer, or never were, for you, it's incredible and it's so very worth it.