Women Uplifting Women
Welcome to the Solidarity podcast,
where we share stories to connect with one another, find comfort in life’s challenges & to celebrate the solidarity that is..
being a woman.
I am sitting here tonight, heartbroken. I was scrolling on social media, during the month that we’re supposed to be learning about & supporting & uplifting women. I am so deeply distressed to see yet another woman tearing down a woman simply because she didn’t agree with her.
Our culture says “cancel her”- if you don’t agree.
Our culture says “throw the whole person away” if we don’t like one thing.
Our culture does not value the sanctity of life- nor do we care about the way our words affect one another.
In one breath we can go from protesting for women’s rights to badmouthing a woman that we don’t agree with.
Either you support women, or you don’t.
Either you love people, or you don’t.
If love doesn’t discriminate, and you’re preaching love, stop discriminating.
You cannot pick & choose based on what you think is right that day- because honestly, it’s so relative.
Think about the way you looked at life 10 years ago, well guess what? I n 10 years it’s going to be different again and what you may vehemently disagree with today may not be what you disagree with 10 years from now. So choose not to be hypocritical.
Standing up for one woman while tearing down another isn’t beneficial, it just reveals that although you care about women, you don’t care about all women.
Y’all; we need to have so much more grace because one day, it could be you sitting in that “canceled” chair.
We hear it all the time women empower women. Women support women. Women stand by women. Except what we don’t hear is that silent but that comes after that.
But.. not the women we disagree with.
Not the women who have different political beliefs.
Not the women with different religious beliefs.
Not the women who confidently own their choices.
Not the women who don’t just go with the flow.
Because those women, those women intimidate us & rather than deal with our own insecurities & rather than asking ourselves hard questions that make us think & question why we believe what we believe- we resort to name calling, bashing, tearing down, witch hunts & cancel culture. It’s ugly & it’s just not right.
We cannot yell for equality & human rights while dehumanizing another human.
People are still people, whether we disagree with them or not.
Either you believe that all humans deserve love, respect & the right to choose, or you don’t believe that any of them do- because those things are so incredibly relative to the narrative that the culture chooses that day.
We owe one another a lot of apologies for the hypocrisy, the hatred, the ugliness & the cruelty that we have displayed.
We need to put down our weapons & choose humility, grace & repentance.
And when we disagree, we need to focus on what we can unite on & THEN what we disagree on rather than focusing on tearing down the person who it is coming from. One action, statement or thought process does not define one’s whole being & self. As much as you’d want that same courtesy for yourself, you need to show it to others- even when you don’t agree.
Because guess what? You don’t have to support every woman. You don’t have to agree with every woman- but you do need to respect them for the humans that they are.
We need to cut the elementary crap, drop the name calling & cancel culture & realize that our opinions are fleeting & it is not worth tearing someone down over.
We need to focus, rather than supporting everyone- uplifting everyone.
Because speaking life, truth & love over someone will change them from the inside out far more than any amount of you telling them they’re wrong will ever change them.
You don’t have to agree with someone to uplift them.
You don’t have to even like someone to uplift them.
You simply have to speak with kindness and grace and realize that we’re all in very different walks of life with different experiences that you can never fully understand.
We’ve all had moments and opinions that we wish we could erase and we’re thankful that no one takes us “down” over them. And even if those things aren’t momentary for someone, it still doesn’t give us the right to cancel or get rid of them.
You can silently remove someone from your life that isn’t healthy for you without bringing everyone along with you. If the writing is truly on the wall, others will see it & make their own choice- but if you have to drag a woman down just to make yourself feel better about your decision to not support them- you’ve got your priorities very, very backwards.
If you want to change the world & promote a loving, accepting environment, start with being loving & accepting. Just because you are kind to or about a person doesn’t mean you have to spend time with them, be invested in their life, or share their beliefs, but it will speak a lot to your character & to those who you do choose to spend time with. How you speak about those who aren’t around- even if they’re well known- says a lot about you & can back up or completely destroy the things you fight for & support.
I’m sorry ya’ll, my son is all up in this.
If you’re on social media supporting women & sharing about various movements & expanding human rights but then you’re tearing down someone else in the next slide, everything you just shared about is going to have a bitter taste in my mouth because I’m seeing everything in a jaded lens.
To wrap this up, think before you speak.
Even if you cannot be supportive, be uplifting because it may just change someone’s whole worldview.
Choose grace over condemnation because it’s not your job.
If you don’t have anything kind to say, don’t say anything at all.
And if you do err on the side of judgment or you’re rude or tear someone down, humble yourself, remember that it could easily be you & ask for forgiveness. We all mess up in this department but it’s how you own it & move forward that matters.
Choose to be intentionally kind with a woman that you do not agree with today. I dare you.
We’re all humans & whether you know this or not- we are all only here because we’ve been given a whole lot of grace.
Today is the last day of this women’s month- make it count & everyday forward.
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As always, I’m so glad you’re here.
And we’re going to do a little bit of uplifting right now.
You’re wanted, needed and loved.
I see you, I hear you and you my love, by the grace of God, you’re enough.